Absolutely, my oldest daughter scrolls, posts, and video chats. Yes, she is acutely aware of when it is “time” to renew the wardrobe with a few new pieces from the current fashion trends. Yes, the girl often rolls her little brown eyes at my “weird” behaviors. And yes, friends are at the superior of her sharing list these days.
Yes, my little princess has her challenges, her snarky attitudes, her moments of self-doubt. Yes, this lady can sometimes be mean to the girl’s siblings, sassy to her parents, generally ornery. Yet nevertheless, underneath it all are ever-expanding and deep cracks of self-awareness, self-love and true empathy for others that will serve not only her, but the world in particular, quite well.
While some parents drive status, monetary reward and upward societal movement for their children–none of which are bad per say–beyond those outer pursuits, my deepest heart’s desire for mine can be voiced most succinctly through Shakespeare, “To thine own do it yourself be true. ” EnLIGHTenment at its best.
Your lady went on to give the case of seeing quite plainly that she doesn’t need to go anywhere specific (camp), do anything special (canoe) or be anything several (a camper) to come to feel authentic, open, connected and free. While she unquestionably views camp as a blessing, she knows that she’s enough just as she is by means of or without camp to help you remind her of that inner knowing.
We do not need to go someplace special or do something unusual to live our own truth. This means that, freedom to be comfortable in this own skin should not be preserved for places that we take a look at three weeks a year. Self-Love can be cultivated in all means, always.
Which has a palpable gratitude for all in the opportunities and lessons discovered from her previous camp experiences, she began to discuss her deeper thoughts on the following subject and beyond. The girl shared that while camp is touted as a spot for a be fully and legitimately yourself, create a sisterhood, expand a connection to nature, and explore your core throughout contemplation and solitude, the actual of it all is to come to understand that inner correlation is available anywhere, anytime, and the most importantly in the NOW.
Indeed, a typical adolescent in so many ways, Except underneath the North Face overcoat and the Ugg boots, in back of the gaggle of giddy girlfriends and the fluorescent video display, and even beyond our sexual family discussions and distributed dinners, there lies a self-awareness and interior blossom set stage that seems unfathomable to get a child her age.
I was truly mesmerised by her expression in deep wisdom that has applied many of us divorces, health maladies, and endless searches because of different veins of the outdoor world to figure out. What my dear girl was announcing through the example of summer season camp–one of any possible outer examples–probably resonates with most of us when looked at tightly.
She even voiced that the songs about sisterhood, respect, and caring, various with a “free to be you” theme, seemed a bit funny to her now, articulating that while appreciative in the sentiment, she hoped who her fellow campers experienced free to be themselves over and above the activities in nature, public cabins, and family dining. In short, everywhere.
Possibly not what I experienced several years back (alright twenty-six quite a few years back to be exact) for the tender age of fourteen. Recently my daughter and I were discussing with certainty if she would attend, once again, a good three week all girls’ camp for the fifth summer in a row.
Whereas we encouraged all of our children to try overnight camp at least once, we have told her that decision to return is now totally up to her. As any discussion ensued, I had become almost mesmerized by the girl’s capacity to articulate the girl’s vantage point on the subject.
She assured me that she were “knocking” camp in any way and will choose to return, but if perhaps she does go back meant for another year or 3, it would not be considering that camp experience allows her to feel more traditional in any way. Her return is based on the conscious, singular (soul) choice to attend simply because she enJOYs the experience not because it is a “safe” destination to be herself fully globally.